Wednesday, May 20, 2009

No school, no eat.

I sit here in the school room trying to type for the first time since we returned home. I've tried to find time for the computer. We will see how this works today.
We had some boy trouble on Monday. So I laid down the law. "No school, no eat." The reply "Ok". No going outside. Grumbling and upstairs he went. A few minutes later he climbed off the back balcony and went bike riding for over and hour. He was afraid to come near the house. Up and down the driveway he went. I called Ricky and said we need a plan. Ricky came home and did not see him. He wanted to look for him. I said no, just cook dinner, on the grill. Troy showed up. The smell invited him home. He told Ricky I said "No school, no eat." He went straight upstairs without talking to me. He stayed up there the rest of the night. Yes, he got hungry. No he was not willing to do any school or ask for food.
The next day. No breakfast = no school? He thought if he did not eat he did not do school work. I called, he did not come. The other kids told me what he said. Noon he was still sleeping in bed. Ricky came home from lunch and and was assigned the job to get him in the school room. He did stay. Troy did not run. He sat and did his school all afternoon. Yeah!!! After about an hour of school I fed him lunch. He worked more. At dinner time we had him unload the dishwasher before eating, a first for him.
Ricky and I both received hugs throughout the night. He had been allowed to do no school at the orphanage. By lunch time I had decided he was testing us to see if we cared if he did it or not. We did let him sleep till noon. He did his school. We both won.
This morning he came down when called. If I am in the room with them they are doing their school. Ok, that is the same with the others.

WE WILL BE HOSTING THIS SUMMER. TWO GIRLS WILL BE COMING FROM SUMI. THEY ARRIVE AROUND JUNE 6. WE ARE VERY EXCITED TO HAVE THEM COME. PLEASE PRAY FOR GOD'S WILL IN THIS HOSTING.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Homeschool mom

Being a mom that schools 7 children at home is a tough job. We started at the beginning with the new 3. I felt God had told me to do this from the beginning. Starting 7, 14, and 15 in first grade. I know that God had me homeschool our other 4, in part for prep for these 3. I love sitting next to them in the school room and watching them do their work. What peace! What joy! Knowing that in my messy, crowded, school room I am right where God wants me to be!
After only a week of doing school with them my first impressions were confirmed, they lack much knowledge. One of my children was absent from school once every three days. Yes, that is right. Living at the orphanage they were absent from school that much. I'm thinking somebody should have pulled them out of bed and put them in the chair for school. I'm thinking that the tv and game systems should be locked up after 10. Staying up till midnight playing games is the reason they were too tired for school. (Yes, I lock ours up.) I'm thinking what about the poor kid I did not get to bring home. He is sleeping in class or in his room and not getting an education. My mind is blown at the labels they have for classes and the fact that they were not taught 2nd grade math. They missed division class altogether.
I'm glad they are here and have a future. I'm glad that as hard as it was, as expensive as it was and is, as much as we owe that we chose to obey God's call to rescue these children. I'm glad their ours.
My boys were doing art. My sweet, new son brought me a picture "Mama Hollie - I love you - My Moma" I love it. "My mama." Sweet music in my ears. That's one of those surprises you cherish. My boy is back to his U.S.A. self. Here he comes up and hugs me. I never know when he will come. He surprises me. I love it. He is so happy here. I know he complains about school and other things....but he is so happy here. I cant' take him too serious when he complains...he tends to smile through it. Peace.
The oldest sometimes writes on her school work "mom I love you."
God's simple blessings. These kids could care less about things....but they are greatful for love.

Allergic to Milk?

God is so good. When in Ukraine one of my children informed me she was allergic to milk. The other 2 agreed. So she did not drink milk.
Sometimes I'm a little slow. It did not occur to me when I bought ice cream cones for the kids that she was eating "milk". The lie continued. (Ricky was not in Ukraine when she had ice cream. So my plan included him.) Since we have been home I discussed the problem with Ricky. I asked him to back me up. She again did not want milk. If she is allergic to milk she can't have ice cream. The first test was serving her tea for breakfast and the rest had milk. She complained. The next day we had cereal for breakfast. Oops I poured her milk....well another kid had to have that bowl and dry cereal for her. Again a few days later....dry cereal. Ricky was kind enough to take the dictionary and show her the word allergic when we ate our ice cream. "Yanizniyou"....."I don't know". The lie continues. The others are watching her pay the price.
I must say I did take too much pleasure in buying so many kinds of ice cream. I wanted the lie to have some affect. Now I am praying that when we use the interpreter she will admit the lie. I know she has drank milk while we are not watching. How long does she think it will last.
I'm glad God allows us to catch our kids in their lies. It gives them a chance to grow and learn. I want them to understand that lies are sin. God hates sin. Sin has punishment. We could have given in and ignored the milk lie and let her have the ice cream. I just feel this lesson will help prevent other lies.
I don't want this used against the kids. I just want others to know some of the creative ways we must parent these precious gifts from God.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Mother's Day

We are at home!!! We arrived late Thursday night. I have been sick. It took over 25 hours from the time I woke up to the time we arrived at home. I only slept 2 hour in that time. At least one of the 5 kids was awake and I was keeping a watch on them. The flight from JFK to ATL: I told the flight attendants they were not allowed coke or coffee. I explained that they had gotten plenty on the last flight. The attendents had a meeting and all agreed to keep them caffene free. I had requested we be together (at least in two's). The next to the last row was open and we all had seats together. There were 3 seats behind us. The ladies, on that row, said the bathroom smell was too bad and asked to move. They moved. I moved to their seats and slept a few hours.
The next flight some of the kids were asleep before we took off. The attendent had already checked to see if trays were up. Vlad put his back down and went to sleep. I decided it was her job to put it up and not mine and I let him sleep.
We were all tired. I thought they would sleep late. They were up at 7:30. I felt so bad that I stayed on the sofa most the day. Rachel and Heather cooked dinner. I was not better Saturday.
Sunday morning, finally feeling decent. Still stuffy and yucky but better.
Heather started cooking pancakes and Rachel helped. Heather had been so excited to find strawberries in the fridge. She wanted to cook pancakes yesterday but we did not have all the ingredients. I am so glad she enjoys cooking. What a blessing to have them make breakfast.
Rachel had informed me her phone was missing. Nobody took it, it just disappeared?
We went to Grace Chapel for church. Yulya called, while we were driving there. She had not planned to go to church there but came and translated for the kids. We were all glad to see her. I was glad to hear God's Word. It came to a point that I would read it out loud in Ukraine to hear the Word. Sometimes just reading it is not enough.
After church our friend translated some things for us to the children. One being please return the phone. After I listened to their reasoning on why none of them had it and various other possibilities....I let them know all that could have been possible if someone had not answered the phone this morning. Silence.
A few of my girls were craving the local Mexican restaurant. We headed there for lunch. They did not like the idea of eating hot dogs. We introduced our friendly, usual waiter to the kids.
My younger brother invited us over and cooked dinner for mom, my older brother and our families. The kids played on the street awhile. They rode bikes, scooters and skate boards. All had a good time.
After we arrived home...Rachel took her shower. She rapidly got out when she heard someone in her room. The phone was back. It was under the bed....but it was back.
Our cats run and hide. They are afraid of our "new" children. They have good reason to be afraid. One minute they will try to pet them and the next minute they are chasing them like wild dogs. This is not just my cats. This happens with birds, cats, dogs, any animal that dares to get close to them. The wildness in these children reminds me of wild animals, willing to chase anything. Hopefully love will tame them.
Reality check: internet has not been working. God's timing is perfect. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. So when my attitude is adjusted I'll say more about our adoption. Till then be patient with me, I've been resting in my Heavenly Father's arms as He allowed us to come home in His timing.
I will say I had emails to send out to many prayer groups and friends. They asked for you to pray we would get to come home Thursday. I tried to send them out Tuesday. No email. By Thursday I was apologizing to God. If He wanted me to stay longer....His timing was perfect. I should have asked to pray for God's timing. In the sandy Ukraine (my desert), I was alone. It was just my prayers to God. Just God and me. Nobody in the US knew all that was going on. We were told we could not do it in a day. It was done in a day.
Tuesday afternoon we picked up the passports at the bus station. Wednesday moring: US Embassy, papers signed, medicals done, shots and xrays given, back to Embassy for fingerprints (both older kids - Troy Vlad's birthday), lunch and back to the Embassy to see if fingerprints were done at 2. After 3 we had the visas.
At the 2 meeting we met 2 families that had also adopted. I stared at one of the girls. I asked the mom where she adopted from....Zhy. I looked at the girl again, I had assumed she was American. I told the parents I thought we had met her. The mom looked at the daughter, the daughter looked at Rachel and called her by name. Wow. What perfect timing. The mom knew my name. She had met Tanya and Leeza and they wanted her to tell Mama Hollie hello. (In their mind if you live in the US you would see me...well they did see me!) We exchanged infor and I invited this Tanya to come visit us.
Then to call about tickets. Then to get student ID cards. Delta office to pay for tickets. And a birthday dinner for Troy Vlad roasting hot dogs at Masha's parents home.
The second couple we met at the Embassy was on the plane to the US with us. We spent hours talking and working with their newly adopted daughter. We used my girls to babysit some so that we could have adult conversation. God's timing.
Thanks to all the praying moms out there. Thanks to the moms that read their Bibles and lead their children closer to God. Thanks to the moms that have helped us through this journey.

Monday, May 4, 2009

He heals the brokenhearted

Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Proverbs 1:2 for attaining wisdom and discipline; for understanding words of insight; 3 for acquiring a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair;
These are things God is working on in our lives. The girls are broken hearted this is so hard, they are so mean and this is taking so long. I can second most of that. I knew it would be hard. I knew my kids were strong. I also have come to realize I will have to provide them with more outs than expected. I'll be searching for summer camps for them. They need the break. They deserve it.
They also deserve the right to have their things. I have asked Ricky to put locks on their doors. They take good care of their things. They have learned if you break it it's gone. I don't quickly replace their things.
Vlad tends to like to wake Rachel with water. Since we moved to Irpene she is sleeping in the room with me and that does not happen. In AL my room is downstairs, their up. I think she deserves the locks.
Phil 2:14 is the first verse I'd like them to learn. "Do everything without complaining or arguing." It probably won't be the first. Maybe Phil 4:4 "Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!"

Grumpy in Kiev

Well that is the reality. The kids were not happy. No yard to play in. Rachel, Heather and I were thrilled to walk out into Independance Square. It was a thrill for us. We were just a few minutes walking distance. We woke up one morning and dressed about 10. The two older children would not get up. Anna was up and dressed. So we left them and walked to the square. We visited some of the many shops there. We enjoyed walking around the city. Anna did not. We bought her candy to keep her happy.
We went to a place to drive cars indoors. First we went to the indoor bowling. They fussed. Then we looked at the movies. They fussed. To the cars. They had a great time, it was expensive. Then Anna climbed through a children's playground. We went into 2 0r 3 stores. They fussed. I decided we did not need to spend money on children that were rude and ungrateful. So we went back to the apartment. We did not play the video games because I was tired if the grumbling. Heather and Rachel were disappointed that they did not get to go to the movie or bowling. They clearly understoood how miserable the other 3 would have made it. They understood my reason for leaving.
There was a park across the street from us. We did not know it the first time we were in Kiev. We had a hard time finding groceries, more importantly water. We walked to the park and played there for awhile. The older 2 just wanted to watch tv. Nothing on tv is in English. They usually try to watch garbage on tv. They turn the channel back to garbage when I walk out of the room. I walk into the room alot!
They have broked the balls, and etc I have given them. Anna has broken her suitcase, two bottles of fingernail polish in her purse, backpack and etc. They said they did not want me to buy them anything. At this point I agree with them.
We had taken them to the street market to get a jersey for Vlad, a picture and blown glass for Haley (and etc). We tried to take Haley shopping to get something for the wedding or a new shirt. She did not want anything. Nothing was good enough. So no more shopping.

The wedding

Masha's family lives here in Irpene. The wedding of her sister, Tanya and Slovic was here in Irpene. We worked Thurday night and most of Friday to get ready for the wedding. The decorations were beautiful. Masha maybe got 2 hours sleep.
We arrived Sat and helped put the silverware on the tables. Then off to the wedding. It was supposed to start at 12. After 11 part of it began.
The retired President of the Babtist Assoc preformed the ceremony. There was a orchestra and a group of singers. We did not understand all of the ceremony. It is tradtion to give them a beautiful bread for their wedding. At 12 they went out and the wedding began? So I'm not sure what was before 12 but it seemed important to me. After the ceremony people brought them flowers. We enjoyed it. All the children sat and behaved!
Then we helped take the decorations to the reception. They served tons of food. We loved it. Even Vlad ate enough. People talked the entire time. A lady, MC talked most of the time and asked others questions. Two groups sang. We had a break and we all went outside. People greated the couple and gave them gifts. Then we went back inside to have sweets, sons of sweets. By end it was after 6. We helped clean up and walked back to the home....tired. We had a quiet evening.

Irpene

It has been awhile.
Yes, we have been here forever. How long in forever? Over 6 weeks. Maybe we will get to go home the end of this week. I'm not hearing any answers. I really wish we had never been told it would probably take less time.
It's a holiday. Yes, no work on Fri or today.
We left Poltava for Kiev. We stayed there 3 days. We had no place to go. We moved to Irpene with a family. We are in 2 rooms and sharing the kitchen. I am blessed to say we are with a Christian family. It was akward, at first. Four days later we have been able to go to a store and get food. We went to a tiny store before that. Cheese, bread, a bag of milk, not much to choose from. (no apples or bananas). For days we ate sandwiches....all day. We bought meat at the store. We had hot dogs for lunch, pork steaks for dinner and chicken for lunch today. We are out of meat.
We are an hour away from Kiev. No car. We tried for the 4th time to go to the zoo today. It is a walk, 2 buses and metro from here; not open today. Rachel's bored.
Today is the first day Vlad washed a dish. He also peeled 1 potato. I told him if he did not he did not eat. He is beginning to believe me.
Anna is having no sweets, coke or cookies today. She really pushed it last night at bed time. We have a fizzy apple drink. She tried to get some for lunch. Nope. It is sweet.
I like the parents here. One night I told the kids to go to bed. They did not. The parents turned off the tv and said I had told them to do to bed. They went!